One thing that's working: people
Apr. 23rd, 2012 04:34 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
dryadgrlOne of the things I remember from before I was sick is that I really like people and that I used to be good at them. (Kind of like knitting or woodworking, except less exact and more squishy.)
One of the things that's been happening the last two months is that I am connecting with individual people agin and having a lot more friend dates in person not just email exchanges or group outings/events/rituals.
For all that people think I'm an extrovert, I do a lot better one on one with my friends than at parties or social events. I feel less lost and like an observer individually. My reactions feel more normalized (for me) and much more so in the last 8 weeks.
I've had a couple of people tell me recently that they think I'm popular. I think they're seeing the piece of me that's "extroverted." I really thrive when I have enough contact with people and that I deeply enjoy those connections. So my time is quite full and I'm very clear about spending time with Kiddo as well where as before I would fit it in where I could and that didn't work. Clarity and boundaries work for me.
It used to be that I'd tell people that my super power is that people tell me things. That's true.
But it's not because of my cape or my cool outfits (well, mostly). I think I've identified what what's for people I know: I reveal things about myself and I accept them as they are. Except when I don't which makes me human.
The skill that makes group dynamics the most difficult for me is feeling like no one else is sharing their truth and thus not feeling seen, heard, and met. One on one relationships are all about that deeper connection and so I can thrive and play and be my warm-hearted self. And I'm happier if I can just be who I am and worry less about people's reactions. So one-on-one increases my ability to do that.
This is part of my quest to find my genius and redefine my work and what I want to be doing for money. That seems to be shifting some and so there's some "embrace the mystery" moments happening over here.
One of the things that's been happening the last two months is that I am connecting with individual people agin and having a lot more friend dates in person not just email exchanges or group outings/events/rituals.
For all that people think I'm an extrovert, I do a lot better one on one with my friends than at parties or social events. I feel less lost and like an observer individually. My reactions feel more normalized (for me) and much more so in the last 8 weeks.
I've had a couple of people tell me recently that they think I'm popular. I think they're seeing the piece of me that's "extroverted." I really thrive when I have enough contact with people and that I deeply enjoy those connections. So my time is quite full and I'm very clear about spending time with Kiddo as well where as before I would fit it in where I could and that didn't work. Clarity and boundaries work for me.
It used to be that I'd tell people that my super power is that people tell me things. That's true.
But it's not because of my cape or my cool outfits (well, mostly). I think I've identified what what's for people I know: I reveal things about myself and I accept them as they are. Except when I don't which makes me human.
The skill that makes group dynamics the most difficult for me is feeling like no one else is sharing their truth and thus not feeling seen, heard, and met. One on one relationships are all about that deeper connection and so I can thrive and play and be my warm-hearted self. And I'm happier if I can just be who I am and worry less about people's reactions. So one-on-one increases my ability to do that.
This is part of my quest to find my genius and redefine my work and what I want to be doing for money. That seems to be shifting some and so there's some "embrace the mystery" moments happening over here.
